Good Communication Builds Great Relationships
Dating in today’s world is a minefield of unread messages, delayed responses, and “sorry, I got busy” excuses. And as a matchmaker, I’ve heard it all. Clear and consistent communication helps build attraction and trust, but many people unintentionally create distance by not being responsive.
Nothing kills attraction faster than flaky texting and inconsistent communication, yet so many people continue to fumble at the starting line of a potential relationship.
So, let’s talk about why communication matters and some absolute dos and don’ts if you want to be successful in dating.
The Truth About Flaky Texters
When someone is genuinely interested in getting to know you, they’ll naturally make an effort to communicate. And that means responding like a normal, functioning adult instead of treating conversations like a disappearing act. Flaky texting isn’t just annoying—it sends a clear message that you’re not invested in building something real. In our culture, dating isn’t just about finding someone for casual fun; it’s often about long-term commitment, family values, and respect. Poor communication at the start doesn’t just waste time—it signals that you’re not serious about building a future.
❌ Delayed replies for days? Not a great look.
❌ Only responding when it’s convenient for you? Selfish behavior.
❌ Leaving people on “read” with no follow-up? Plain rude.
Effective communication is key to creating meaningful relationships, and small efforts go a long way in making connections stronger. Relationships aren’t built on half-hearted effort. They require consistency, effort, and basic courtesy—all of which start in the early texting phase.
Dos & Don’ts of Communication in Dating
✅ DO: Be Intentional & Consistent
- If you’re interested, show it. Send a thoughtful message, ask a question, keep the convo going. Don’t flake on someone who could be a real part of your future.
- You don’t need to be glued to your phone, but if you can make time to scroll social media, you can reply to someone you claim to be interested in.
❌ DON’T: Play Games & Keep Them Guessing
- Waiting three days to respond because you “don’t want to seem too keen” is outdated and immature.
- If you like someone, communicate like a grown adult.
✅ DO: Set Clear Expectations
- If you’re genuinely busy, say so! A simple, “Hey, today’s hectic, but I’ll text you later” goes a long way.
- Be clear about what you’re looking for so no one’s time gets wasted.
❌ DON’T: Keep Conversations in Texting Limbo
- Messaging back and forth for weeks without making actual plans? Pointless.
- If you’re serious about dating, move the conversation off the phone and into real life.
✅ DO: Match Their Energy
- If someone is putting in effort, meet them at the same level.
- Enthusiasm is attractive. Ghosting and half-hearted responses? Not so much.
Final Thoughts: Consistency, Respect and Clear Intentions Matter
Communication plays a crucial role in relationships, and setting the right tone from the beginning helps create a foundation for something meaningful. If you’re serious about dating, act like it. If you’re looking for a real connection, act like it. Be responsive, be present, and most importantly—don’t be flaky.
And if you’re tired of dealing with poor communication and time-wasters, maybe it’s time to ditch the guessing games and let a matchmaker find you someone who actually knows how to show up.
With warmth and love,
Happie
